Who is to blame when college recruiting doesn't work out as planned

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Oh, silly me, I thought everyone supposedly is one big happy family magnanimously thinking of what's best for all the kids on the team. Guess there might be some other reasons why some on this web site don't want the "how to's" of recruiting to be discussed.

Silly wabbit...Your best bet is keep your trap shut. Soccer parents are the worst gossips ever, and the last thing you want is having your kid discussed in the bleachers or on this site. It only gets worse the higher up you go

If you want actual advice there's plenty of better advice on other sites, or talk with actual people - in person - who have been through the process.

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Oh, silly me, I thought everyone supposedly is one big happy family magnanimously thinking of what's best for all the kids on the team. Guess there might be some other reasons why some on this web site don't want the "how to's" of recruiting to be discussed.

BTDT, just tell us (again and again) what you are so desperate for everyone to know. No one is preventing you (obviously) from your echolalic messaging. Obviously you will never stop. And if you aren't the most despised why can't you get a single, solitary support post. You're the one on all these special teams and on the sidelines every week and all over the world. Not a single endorsement. So beyond telling that it's beyond the beyond of telling. You are pure and simple a cold-blooded loser.

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Says the mental health (cough) "professional"

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Why even engage with the poster? Clearly they are sick. Just ignore him and focus on the discussion.

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So much energy wasted on meaningless posts thus far.

Whether or not the thread was started for the sake of starting a thread or to ask an important question is not really important.

First, I would say this about your own child. The player that is learning the most and more likely to be recruited is the one with the ball most of the time. The others are just watching and will continue to watch others play well into their adult years. The age old question of tactical vs technical is very important with regard to recruiting. If you are the one who always gives the ball up to the another who then creates the play then you will be less recruited.

Your child has to be involved!!!

For the amount of money that you are paying the club, the club has to take some responsibilty in promoting and preparing beyond the practices and games. Setting up showcase weekends of training and games with college coaches in attendance is one way to help. Paying for team videographers and giving players/parents access is a great way to make highlight videos, which are very important. Attending specific school clinics/camps is a third way.

It is a group effort that involves your kids desire, the parents willingness and ability to investigate and collect (e.g. videos), and the clubs promotional efforts.

Good luck.

Good post. This site used to be a lot more useful and enjoyable when participants engaged in discussion instead of the constant cyber bullying that goes on now. I appreciate your insight.

I feel that I can identify with the parents in this situation because I have been in their shoes. It sucks and just adds pressure to what already is probably a pressure filled situation. A big part of our problem was my daughter changed her mind several times about a lot of things, most specifically about what part of the country she wanted to go to school in. What I learned was that as hard as it will be you need to go back to the drawing board and really reassess your targeting and how you are approaching the coaches that you are approaching. What you have to do is come to grips with the fact that something is just not working and then figure out exactly what that is. All recruiting is, is just a marketing exercise. I suggest that you start first with your targeting because that is where most families struggle largely because they run into problems like I did where the kid can't make up their mind what they want to do. Have you selected specific schools and are pursuing them or are you passively trying to figure out who might be interested based upon the schools that have contacted you after showcases? You need to do the former if you are not getting anywhere. The next issue to look at is whether or not your message is actually getting to coaches. A lot this has to do with how good your targeting is but if your player is just sending emails out that really is not nearly aggressive enough and you have to be a LOT more direct. Your club coach might be able to help here but ultimately it usually just takes good old fashion hoot spa. You have to go bang on the doors and be direct, especially if they are not coming to you. Obviously, with things happening so young on the girls side, the sooner you do this the better the chance you might be able to pull something together. The last thing you want to do is stop and start pointing fingers.

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Good post. This site used to be a lot more useful and enjoyable when participants engaged in discussion instead of the constant cyber bullying that goes on now. I appreciate your insight.

I feel that I can identify with the parents in this situation because I have been in their shoes. It sucks and just adds pressure to what already is probably a pressure filled situation. A big part of our problem was my daughter changed her mind several times about a lot of things, most specifically about what part of the country she wanted to go to school in. What I learned was that as hard as it will be you need to go back to the drawing board and really reassess your targeting and how you are approaching the coaches that you are approaching. What you have to do is come to grips with the fact that something is just not working and then figure out exactly what that is. All recruiting is, is just a marketing exercise. I suggest that you start first with your targeting because that is where most families struggle largely because they run into problems like I did where the kid can't make up their mind what they want to do. Have you selected specific schools and are pursuing them or are you passively trying to figure out who might be interested based upon the schools that have contacted you after showcases? You need to do the former if you are not getting anywhere. The next issue to look at is whether or not your message is actually getting to coaches. A lot this has to do with how good your targeting is but if your player is just sending emails out that really is not nearly aggressive enough and you have to be a LOT more direct. Your club coach might be able to help here but ultimately it usually just takes good old fashion hoot spa. You have to go bang on the doors and be direct, especially if they are not coming to you. Obviously, with things happening so young on the girls side, the sooner you do this the better the chance you might be able to pull something together. The last thing you want to do is stop and start pointing fingers.

Well look who magically showed up for some multiple thread early morning posting. One of his friends on the sidelines must have alerted him to things being said, although same friend can't endorse him here. Meanwhile, nothing new above. Regurgitation after regurigitation.