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    Etiquette for leaving a club at end of season

    After a couple of years at her first (small) club, my D will be switching to one of the bigger clubs everyone on this site loves to fight about. Switch will be made as of June tryouts. I'm sure this will be a surprise/disapointment to her current club/coach, as there haven't been any overt issues. In short, making the switch to keep her playing with other strong players and for better game day competition.

    To those of you who have been there, have you spoken to the club/coach about your plans to switch, and if so, when in relation to tryouts? I'm trying to be mature about it. Any non-sarcastic input is welcome.

    #2
    It is like an exit interview when you leave a job. Let them know why you are leaving and what the bigger club will provide for your daughter. You just need to be up front and honest. As a coach I would rather a parent tell me and let me know what we need to do better as a small club.

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      #3
      Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
      It is like an exit interview when you leave a job. Let them know why you are leaving and what the bigger club will provide for your daughter. You just need to be up front and honest. As a coach I would rather a parent tell me and let me know what we need to do better as a small club.
      Really not required to explain anything. You're just moving on, thank them and say your goodbyes. That's it.

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        #4
        Just go. No need for the exit interview--it will just end up sounding condescending. Maybe a "We are going to try GPS next season. Thank you so much for all you've done for Mia."

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          #5
          Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
          It is like an exit interview when you leave a job. Let them know why you are leaving and what the bigger club will provide for your daughter. You just need to be up front and honest. As a coach I would rather a parent tell me and let me know what we need to do better as a small club.
          Unfortunately many club managers aren't good businessmen so they won't necessarily act accordingly. Don't be surprised if you are told "you're making a mistake" or "if you stay, we'll do x, y and z." Either response should instill the flight instinct. Hopefully you'll get a positive response of "that sounds like a good move for her, we wish her all the best yada yada." Definitely don't say anything to the current club until it's a done deal at the new one.

          To the OP just make sure what you're doing is better. Will she go from starter to clawing for a few minutes of PT? Quality of the coaching staff (because no matter what the club tells you it could change by fall). Do you research. Bigger isn't always better

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            #6
            Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
            Just go. No need for the exit interview--it will just end up sounding condescending. Maybe a "We are going to try GPS next season. Thank you so much for all you've done for Mia."
            It's a small world and you don't want to burn bridges unless it's a relationship that isn't salvageable. Some players return to clubs...you just never know. As another said, just be an adult about it - a brief explanation/this was a tough decision/thanks/best of luck next year. Don't be surprised if you never hear anything back. Sometimes it isn't that they're not caring but are just swamped.

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              #7
              Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
              Really not required to explain anything. You're just moving on, thank them and say your goodbyes. That's it.
              Exactly. Clubs have around 25% turnover every year and it will more so this year with the birth year change. So its not a rare thing that needs a long conversation. And you passed the first test of club loyalty. Don't feel like you have to be loyal. Its a business. You pay money, they teach soccer. Nothing more.

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                #8
                Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                Exactly. Clubs have around 25% turnover every year and it will more so this year with the birth year change. So its not a rare thing that needs a long conversation. And you passed the first test of club loyalty. Don't feel like you have to be loyal. Its a business. You pay money, they teach soccer. Nothing more.
                Yes--parting with the Club is the easy bit. Get ready for the resentment from the TM and other parents who don't share the 'its just business' ethic. Some people actually invest heart and soul into their club (not just money) and will wonder why you don't stick around to try to make the Club better. Of course, if you actually think moving to GPS is a good idea, they may well be glad to see the back of you.

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                  After a couple of years at her first (small) club, my D will be switching to one of the bigger clubs everyone on this site loves to fight about. Switch will be made as of June tryouts. I'm sure this will be a surprise/disapointment to her current club/coach, as there haven't been any overt issues. In short, making the switch to keep her playing with other strong players and for better game day competition.

                  To those of you who have been there, have you spoken to the club/coach about your plans to switch, and if so, when in relation to tryouts? I'm trying to be mature about it. Any non-sarcastic input is welcome.
                  unless your daughter is a real superstar you are making a big mistake going anywhere near the so called big clubs - wake up - final warning

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                    unless your daughter is a real superstar you are making a big mistake going anywhere near the so called big clubs - wake up - final warning
                    Nonsense. If your kid is committed and loves the game AND practice, go. As others have stated, no need for a long explanation, just go. Remember who the customer is and that you have no need to explain yourself.

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                      unless your daughter is a real superstar you are making a big mistake going anywhere near the so called big clubs - wake up - final warning
                      Wrong. The "big clubs" give her more ID opportunities. Move on.

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                        Wrong. The "big clubs" give her more ID opportunities. Move on.
                        I hear this argument all the time, please give us the explanation of how the big clubs get an average team player more ID opportunities. Thanks

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                          #13
                          Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                          I hear this argument all the time, please give us the explanation of how the big clubs get an average team player more ID opportunities. Thanks
                          You first. Let's hear how a mom and pop is a good move for a top player? Thanks.

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                            #14
                            Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                            I hear this argument all the time, please give us the explanation of how the big clubs get an average team player more ID opportunities. Thanks
                            Maybe everybody here isn't talking about getting more ID opportunities for an average team player. Maybe the opportunities are for a better than average player. Bigger clubs command more attention from colleges and ODP. If you play for a bigger club there is an assumption made about your quality, and more people are willing to look at you and give you a chance.

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                              #15
                              Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                              Maybe everybody here isn't talking about getting more ID opportunities for an average team player. Maybe the opportunities are for a better than average player. Bigger clubs command more attention from colleges and ODP. If you play for a bigger club there is an assumption made about your quality, and more people are willing to look at you and give you a chance.
                              that is the most untrue statement i have seen in 20 years following talking soccer.

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