I'm actually posting this for a friend.
In the last two weeks his daughter returned to practicing with her premier team after being out injured. She was restricted from playing on the advice of her doctor after getting a 2nd concussion this year.
I was having lunch with her dad yesterday and he was complaining to me about a dilemma he was having. Apparently the coach told his daughter "I'm not going to play you in any games if you are hesitant about heading the ball".
By the way - this is a U-15 Girls team.
Her dad was looking for some advice on how to handle the situation. I suggested that he talk with the coach and let him be fully aware of what the doctor has communicated. His response was - "Oh, the coach fully knows already." The dad is pretty upset that the coach has basically put his daughter in a conflict between playing time and injury risk. The dad clearly feels the coach should be more flexible with regards to playing time.
I'm personally not 100% privy to the girl's medical situation, but I'd tend to agree that when a coach puts a 14 year old's health at risk by placing the player in a position where they know the only way they can play is to take that risk, then it seems to me something is seriously wrong with the coach.
My personal analysis was to just ask myself:
"What's the worst that could happen to the coach's goals and objective if the girl plays and doesn't head the ball" - that would be that the team loses an important game because of it.
versus
"What's the worst that could happen from the parent's goals and objectives if the girl understates her physical condition in order to meet her desire to play?" - Obviously the worst thing is that she ends up with a more permanent head injury
So to me...it seemed that the logical thing to do would be to take the conversation up with the coach again in such a way that would hopefully make the coach realize that its an unreasonable to put a 14 year old in the position to have to choose between playing time and injury risk like that. Obviously the parent could take a soft approach to the team's coach or a more agressive one akin to "i'll write the next check when you change your mind" kind of thing.
I know the parent doesn't want to do anything to jeopardize the potential of his daughter's playing time by creating bad blood with the coach, so what would you suggest is the right way to approach the coach? Or should the parent just "suck it up" that a u-14 girl's team should be less concerned about players health than a professional sports team is.
In the last two weeks his daughter returned to practicing with her premier team after being out injured. She was restricted from playing on the advice of her doctor after getting a 2nd concussion this year.
I was having lunch with her dad yesterday and he was complaining to me about a dilemma he was having. Apparently the coach told his daughter "I'm not going to play you in any games if you are hesitant about heading the ball".
By the way - this is a U-15 Girls team.
Her dad was looking for some advice on how to handle the situation. I suggested that he talk with the coach and let him be fully aware of what the doctor has communicated. His response was - "Oh, the coach fully knows already." The dad is pretty upset that the coach has basically put his daughter in a conflict between playing time and injury risk. The dad clearly feels the coach should be more flexible with regards to playing time.
I'm personally not 100% privy to the girl's medical situation, but I'd tend to agree that when a coach puts a 14 year old's health at risk by placing the player in a position where they know the only way they can play is to take that risk, then it seems to me something is seriously wrong with the coach.
My personal analysis was to just ask myself:
"What's the worst that could happen to the coach's goals and objective if the girl plays and doesn't head the ball" - that would be that the team loses an important game because of it.
versus
"What's the worst that could happen from the parent's goals and objectives if the girl understates her physical condition in order to meet her desire to play?" - Obviously the worst thing is that she ends up with a more permanent head injury
So to me...it seemed that the logical thing to do would be to take the conversation up with the coach again in such a way that would hopefully make the coach realize that its an unreasonable to put a 14 year old in the position to have to choose between playing time and injury risk like that. Obviously the parent could take a soft approach to the team's coach or a more agressive one akin to "i'll write the next check when you change your mind" kind of thing.
I know the parent doesn't want to do anything to jeopardize the potential of his daughter's playing time by creating bad blood with the coach, so what would you suggest is the right way to approach the coach? Or should the parent just "suck it up" that a u-14 girl's team should be less concerned about players health than a professional sports team is.
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